Have you ever pondered on what makes a person successful? Is it his wealth? Financial status/ capabilities? Career? Education? Hmm… How do we measure success anyway? Well, most of the time, people tend to correlate success with wealth and financial stability and often, this is the biggest mistake.
To me, being successful is being able to manage your goals, career, family and most importantly- being spiritually and mentally strong. No matter how much a person studies or earns does not mean that he has everything.. It does not mean that he is the perfect example of a successful person.
Initially, my thinking were rather shallow. I really thought that as long as I can gain financial independence early, then I would be successful. By the way, have you ever wondered whether you are doing what you like right now? Is it what you have always hoped to do or become? Confucius once said, “Find a job that you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
As far as I know, most of us don’t. We do and behave what people want and expect us to be. Generally, we are all molded in accordance to our family, friends and society’s beliefs. When I ask my friends what do they want in life, they would normally reply me- “Money, Stable Job & Minimal Commitments.” I really hate to say this but, those answers are rather superficial.
Right now, I feel that before being successful in anything, one must be “successful in oneself” first. A more holistic approach to life will tend to guide a person to the right path. I don’t mean to disagree that your job and money are crucial in your everyday life. It’s just that people are more prone to walk the wrong path just to reach their motives. Or even worse, some will be more complacent as they would say “As long as I’ve enough to feed my family, children and me, everything is okay.” To a certain extent it is true, but have they ever thought what life really means???
Being successful have never been easy. Most people say “IF I DO MY BEST, THEN SUCCESS WILL COME NATURALLY.” In most cases, yes, it is true, but what kind of success are they talking about? Some would justify that “DOING YOUR BEST IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING THE BEST.” I can tell you this- It is only an excuse generated by complacent & indolent people. Till today, I still believe that if you want something badly, you will achieve it by hook or by crook. You wanna be the best, then go for it!!!!!! But of course, you must know what are the roads you are going to take. You may want to follow Robert Frost for using the road less traveled, and that will make all the difference.
All I know for sure is, if you want to achieve success, define success in terms of your “diction and language.” Balance all out. Success to me means having a loving family, great friends, an affectionate, devoting ‘other half’ and a HEALTHY LIFE in order to be able to enjoy their companionship. My good friend once told me- NEVER BE WITH SOMEONE WHO YOU THINK WILL PULL YOU DOWN- ESPECIALLY YOUR ‘OTHER HALF.’ FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL SUPPORT YOU ALL THE WAY AND YOU WILL BE THE BEST OF YOURSELF.
As for now, I’m glad that I have many things that some people don’t have. I have an extremely encouraging family who supports me all the way as they provide me with the best education and guidance in my career path. Also, I’ve a handful of true friends and colleagues who continuously back me up. *BLUSH*- And someone who will never close his ears when I shriek of frustration. He listens, plans, promise and assures me that as long as I’m with him, I’ll never be ‘pulled down.’ Why? Cz he’s trying to climb high to reach his ambition and spiritual goals. WE CAN BE THE BEST OF OURSELVES. THERE ARE NO RESTRICTIONS TO IT.
Cheers~~~
Friday, April 18, 2008
Monday, January 14, 2008
You Are The Inspiration
Have you ever thought what inspires you most? Or what motivates you to be a better human being; to improve yourself physically, mentally or spiritually? Hmmm... Or are you contented with your life now? Is there anything that you would like to achieve or succeed one day? Have you even thought of what is your direction?
You may have a goal, but is it feasible, realistic or attainable? Sometimes, we aim too high, thus we become impatient and irrational.... And at that very moment when you feel low, miserable and depressed; when you know that you are lost and that your aspirations are shattered,.... Who will always stand beside and comfort you with their utmost efforts? Parents? YES... They will always stick by your side... By hook or by crook, they will ensure that you will gain peace and sanity again...
However, if you are lucky... I mean super duper lucky,... You will bump into someone that will change your life forever... A 360 degree change... This individual will provide you neverending inspirations that you will need in your entire journey of life... That is why I said, you have to be SUPER DUPER LUCKY to meet someone who is able to share your ups and downs... Hahaha..
Anyway, I just know I am fortunate enough to climb up from the red fiery fire in hell with the help of my guardian angel, who is now my most sacred possession... Hahaha... My dearest Mic... My inspiration... And I hope this song is able to express how much I feel about my most cherished and treasured person in my life... Besides, it's a meaningful song.... Old, but still evergreen ;)
Cheers~~~
You may have a goal, but is it feasible, realistic or attainable? Sometimes, we aim too high, thus we become impatient and irrational.... And at that very moment when you feel low, miserable and depressed; when you know that you are lost and that your aspirations are shattered,.... Who will always stand beside and comfort you with their utmost efforts? Parents? YES... They will always stick by your side... By hook or by crook, they will ensure that you will gain peace and sanity again...
However, if you are lucky... I mean super duper lucky,... You will bump into someone that will change your life forever... A 360 degree change... This individual will provide you neverending inspirations that you will need in your entire journey of life... That is why I said, you have to be SUPER DUPER LUCKY to meet someone who is able to share your ups and downs... Hahaha..
Anyway, I just know I am fortunate enough to climb up from the red fiery fire in hell with the help of my guardian angel, who is now my most sacred possession... Hahaha... My dearest Mic... My inspiration... And I hope this song is able to express how much I feel about my most cherished and treasured person in my life... Besides, it's a meaningful song.... Old, but still evergreen ;)
You Are The Inspiration by Chicago
You know our love was meant to be
The kind of love that lasts forever
And I want you here with me
From tonight until the end of time
You should know, everywhere I go
You're always on my mind, in my heart
In my soul, Baby
Chorus:
You're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration
Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one needs you more than I need you
And I know, yes I know that it's plain to see
We're so in love when we're together
Now I know that I need you here with me
From tonight until the end of time
You should know, everywhere I go
Always on my mind, in my heart
In my soul
You're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration
Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one needs you more than I
No one needs you more than I
Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one needs you more than i need you
Cheers~~~
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
Will You Love Me Tomorrow?
Hmm... I came across an oldie... 'Will You Love Me Tomorrow?' by The Shirelles...I strongly feel and believe that this song tells a lot about me... Always in doubt about love... Sceptical... Hahaha... Whatever.. Anyway, would just like to share it...
So, Mic, Will you still love me tomorrow? Promise? Hehehe... Nobody knows about the future... If you are reading this, I do hope you will still love me tomorrow... Not only tomorrow, but death do us apart... Cz I sincerely treasure and appreciate for having you in my life... Thanks for brightening up my days and making me realize that life isn't as bitter as I think it would be...
To you guys out there, will you still love your partner/companion tomorrow? Ponder this question deeply... Don't just answer abruptly... Think... Promises should be kept ;)
Cheers ~~~
Tonight you're mine completely
You give you love so sweetly
Tonight the light of love is in your eyes
But will you love me tomorrow?
Is this a lasting treasure
Or just a moment's pleasure?
Can I believe the magic of your sighs?
Will you still love me tomorrow?
Tonight with words unspoken
You say that I'm the only one
But will my heart be broken
When the night meets the morning sun?
I'd like to know that your love
Is love I can be sure of
So tell me now, and I won't ask again
Will you still love me tomorrow?
So tell me now, and I won't ask again
Will you still love me tomorrow?
Will you still love me tomorrow?
Will you still love me tomorrow?
So, Mic, Will you still love me tomorrow? Promise? Hehehe... Nobody knows about the future... If you are reading this, I do hope you will still love me tomorrow... Not only tomorrow, but death do us apart... Cz I sincerely treasure and appreciate for having you in my life... Thanks for brightening up my days and making me realize that life isn't as bitter as I think it would be...
To you guys out there, will you still love your partner/companion tomorrow? Ponder this question deeply... Don't just answer abruptly... Think... Promises should be kept ;)
Cheers ~~~
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
Blessing In Disguise...
Well, it’s been a month since I’ve penned anything down… The month of December… It was a rather difficult month for me, but everything still went well… Mmmm… I had a very special birthday gift from Mic… A lovely watch which is heart-shaped… I love it a lot… Apart from the mini-sized, flaky chocolate cake, I also had a huge yam cake which my dear Mic had bought for me… Also, he personally made ‘red eggs’ for me on my birthday… Honestly, I felt very touched… No one, besides my mom would make something for me to eat and enjoy… It was a real surprise for me…
On top of that, during the Chinese ‘Tung Zhi’ aka ‘Winter Festival,’ Mic also made homemade Tang Yuen for me… It had different kind of fillings such as sweetcorn, red bean paste, green bean paste and my all-time favourite- YAM!!!! Hahahaha…. I can’t believe that he really made it all by himself… At first, I thought he bought the ready made frozen Tang Yuen…Hahaha!!! But he didn’t!!! He really bought the flour from the market, made his own paste and rolled each of them up one by one… It was really time-consuming but I appreciate all his hardwork and effort… After all, it really tasted superb!!!! Besides, he managed to roll each Tang Yuen balls to similar sizes, which I personally don’t think I could handle!!!! Hehehe….
Christmas was quite disastrous for me… Mic and I had a cat fight over small issues… Partly it was my fault too… I said partly only.. Heheheh….Anyway, we managed to come to a stand and compromised with the help of our good mutual friend…. I was happy though.. At least, we did sort out our differences and learnt to accept one another for who we are and what we are not…
Mic felt a little bit guilty and that was why he gave me a surprise again… Besides taking me to a fantastic Korean restaurant for a yummy BBQ Korean cuisine on New Year's Eve...He also presented me a tremendously meaningful and evocative gift… A lovely pair of gold Mickey Mouse earrings… Hehehe… He said that since I was born in the year of the rat, Mickey would be the best New Year’s gift for me… And I agree with him… But I didn’t lose out too!!! I gave him a Swiss Army multi-purpose kit which he could put it in his car for in case of emergency!!!
Hmmm…Furthermore, since he started working in a new company, I managed to prepare lunch for him… It is kinda romantic when you can sit in the car, eating our lunch boxes that I had cooked… Mmmm… The first lunchbox was sweet and sour prawns with a fried egg and some vegetables… The second lunchbox was roasted honey chicken, minced pork with chillies and some greens and the third lunchbox was Hainanese chicken rice… Being inside the car under a shady tree overlooking some greeneries and listening to music were indeed romantic enough for me… Blissful.. I wish I could cook for him everyday for the rest of my life… Hehehe…
The more I am with Mic, the more I learn everyday… He’s a simple yet complex human being… His philosophies are rather unique which cannot be easily understood by laymen like me… You know la… I’m a complicated person ma.. I don’t really know anything about life yet.. Hehehe… Luckily I have my personal motivator to guide me all the way… He gets very, very irritated if he is unable to help or direct me on what I should do when I am in dilemma.. I am truly grateful for him as he cares for me a lot…
Some theories which he had identified were about hiking and life… Prior to new year’s celebration, he took me for a hike and explained many valuable values that we human have neglected in our daily lives… We have to think each time when we trot uphill or downhill, figuring which path would be the best for us to step on further… If we accidentally fall, we will get back up again and continue our journey.. If we don’t, we would just end up being there, stuck in the cold forest… In addition, for each pace we take, we have to consider which next move to make for a slight mistake would make us stumble… This teaches us which road or which step we should take, not just blindly walking without any directions…
You see, I am overly too thankful to Mic that he had always stood by me in good times and bad times… He understood how I felt, my anger towards an evil creature and yet, he still encouraged me to move on with my life… I don’t think I can find any man who is patient enough and willing to discuss on my previous pathetic relationship openly.. I had always been franked to Mic… Initially, it was rather difficult, but later on, he actually allowed me to talk about everything in my past and I could just get everything off my chest!!! He had been very nice to me…Teaching me on letting go and controlling my anger slowly… Sometimes Mic really angers me though, because he tried asking me to wish all the best to the evil creature… I told him truthfully; I can’t and will never will… I may forget and forgive, but I just can’t wish the best for the wicked mortal who is still living on earth!!!
When I was at my saddest moments, I truly believe that God answered my prayers… Every night before I go to bed, I always make it a point to pray and talk to The Goddess Of Mercy… I will pour everything out, on what I think from a woman’s perspective… And once, at my lowest point, I told her that I hope to find someone who could treat and love me genuinely for who I am… And guess what…..I got Mic… Till today, I really believed that God has helped me a lot.. She had listened to me patiently to my cries and she knew the pain I was going through.. Without God, I don’t think I could survive till today…Out of the blue, without knowing this person, he suddenly appeared into my life during my sorrowful days… How come? Now I truly believe that there is always a BLESSING IN DISGUISE… Although a scenario could be devastating, there is actually something hiding back there to give you a pleasant surprise!!! Hence, when I realized that God does listen to my prayers, I have never failed praying and keeping my faith strong… If I had not turned to God, I would be just a piece of shit without any directions in my life…
Nowadays, I am very happy, contented and high spirited… Of course I do have my gloomy days, but most of my days are filled with joy and happiness… The kids at the center keep me going and motivated… And I am very happy that my ideas for the center are implemented so that those kids can be effectively educated through creative rather than mundane ways…. Moreover, the pay is quite good compared to normal office jobs… Can even earn more that that too!!! Hahahah!!!
Ya… I forgot the best part… Mic is such a doll… He always has plans… Never-ending future plans for me to have a better life… He knows that I expect a lot and he sincerely puts in his utmost effort to make my life comfortable… Yes… I admit I’m a big spender… Kekeke…. At least for know, I don’t have to worry as he has his ongoing investments and dedicated monthly savings for our "PIGGY HOME"...Hahaha…. Relieved….I am finally relieved that for once, things are working well for me… I thank Goddess of Mercy and the angels who had been keenly listening to me grumbling all the time… Hehehe…
Cheers~~~
On top of that, during the Chinese ‘Tung Zhi’ aka ‘Winter Festival,’ Mic also made homemade Tang Yuen for me… It had different kind of fillings such as sweetcorn, red bean paste, green bean paste and my all-time favourite- YAM!!!! Hahahaha…. I can’t believe that he really made it all by himself… At first, I thought he bought the ready made frozen Tang Yuen…Hahaha!!! But he didn’t!!! He really bought the flour from the market, made his own paste and rolled each of them up one by one… It was really time-consuming but I appreciate all his hardwork and effort… After all, it really tasted superb!!!! Besides, he managed to roll each Tang Yuen balls to similar sizes, which I personally don’t think I could handle!!!! Hehehe….
Christmas was quite disastrous for me… Mic and I had a cat fight over small issues… Partly it was my fault too… I said partly only.. Heheheh….Anyway, we managed to come to a stand and compromised with the help of our good mutual friend…. I was happy though.. At least, we did sort out our differences and learnt to accept one another for who we are and what we are not…
Mic felt a little bit guilty and that was why he gave me a surprise again… Besides taking me to a fantastic Korean restaurant for a yummy BBQ Korean cuisine on New Year's Eve...He also presented me a tremendously meaningful and evocative gift… A lovely pair of gold Mickey Mouse earrings… Hehehe… He said that since I was born in the year of the rat, Mickey would be the best New Year’s gift for me… And I agree with him… But I didn’t lose out too!!! I gave him a Swiss Army multi-purpose kit which he could put it in his car for in case of emergency!!!
Hmmm…Furthermore, since he started working in a new company, I managed to prepare lunch for him… It is kinda romantic when you can sit in the car, eating our lunch boxes that I had cooked… Mmmm… The first lunchbox was sweet and sour prawns with a fried egg and some vegetables… The second lunchbox was roasted honey chicken, minced pork with chillies and some greens and the third lunchbox was Hainanese chicken rice… Being inside the car under a shady tree overlooking some greeneries and listening to music were indeed romantic enough for me… Blissful.. I wish I could cook for him everyday for the rest of my life… Hehehe…
The more I am with Mic, the more I learn everyday… He’s a simple yet complex human being… His philosophies are rather unique which cannot be easily understood by laymen like me… You know la… I’m a complicated person ma.. I don’t really know anything about life yet.. Hehehe… Luckily I have my personal motivator to guide me all the way… He gets very, very irritated if he is unable to help or direct me on what I should do when I am in dilemma.. I am truly grateful for him as he cares for me a lot…
Some theories which he had identified were about hiking and life… Prior to new year’s celebration, he took me for a hike and explained many valuable values that we human have neglected in our daily lives… We have to think each time when we trot uphill or downhill, figuring which path would be the best for us to step on further… If we accidentally fall, we will get back up again and continue our journey.. If we don’t, we would just end up being there, stuck in the cold forest… In addition, for each pace we take, we have to consider which next move to make for a slight mistake would make us stumble… This teaches us which road or which step we should take, not just blindly walking without any directions…
You see, I am overly too thankful to Mic that he had always stood by me in good times and bad times… He understood how I felt, my anger towards an evil creature and yet, he still encouraged me to move on with my life… I don’t think I can find any man who is patient enough and willing to discuss on my previous pathetic relationship openly.. I had always been franked to Mic… Initially, it was rather difficult, but later on, he actually allowed me to talk about everything in my past and I could just get everything off my chest!!! He had been very nice to me…Teaching me on letting go and controlling my anger slowly… Sometimes Mic really angers me though, because he tried asking me to wish all the best to the evil creature… I told him truthfully; I can’t and will never will… I may forget and forgive, but I just can’t wish the best for the wicked mortal who is still living on earth!!!
When I was at my saddest moments, I truly believe that God answered my prayers… Every night before I go to bed, I always make it a point to pray and talk to The Goddess Of Mercy… I will pour everything out, on what I think from a woman’s perspective… And once, at my lowest point, I told her that I hope to find someone who could treat and love me genuinely for who I am… And guess what…..I got Mic… Till today, I really believed that God has helped me a lot.. She had listened to me patiently to my cries and she knew the pain I was going through.. Without God, I don’t think I could survive till today…Out of the blue, without knowing this person, he suddenly appeared into my life during my sorrowful days… How come? Now I truly believe that there is always a BLESSING IN DISGUISE… Although a scenario could be devastating, there is actually something hiding back there to give you a pleasant surprise!!! Hence, when I realized that God does listen to my prayers, I have never failed praying and keeping my faith strong… If I had not turned to God, I would be just a piece of shit without any directions in my life…
Nowadays, I am very happy, contented and high spirited… Of course I do have my gloomy days, but most of my days are filled with joy and happiness… The kids at the center keep me going and motivated… And I am very happy that my ideas for the center are implemented so that those kids can be effectively educated through creative rather than mundane ways…. Moreover, the pay is quite good compared to normal office jobs… Can even earn more that that too!!! Hahahah!!!
Ya… I forgot the best part… Mic is such a doll… He always has plans… Never-ending future plans for me to have a better life… He knows that I expect a lot and he sincerely puts in his utmost effort to make my life comfortable… Yes… I admit I’m a big spender… Kekeke…. At least for know, I don’t have to worry as he has his ongoing investments and dedicated monthly savings for our "PIGGY HOME"...Hahaha…. Relieved….I am finally relieved that for once, things are working well for me… I thank Goddess of Mercy and the angels who had been keenly listening to me grumbling all the time… Hehehe…
Cheers~~~
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